Tuesday, November 20, 2012

A Little Chat and then a Good Cry Recipe

I came home from running errands tonight, and probably not to your surprise, little miss is on my mind. Like normal.

Thinking about her, and just feeling so thankful that A has grown in our hearts over the past year, and rocked our little world upside...no. Right side up.

Yes, I've noticed I talk mainly about A on this blog. This is kind of her small space in my life where she can be present...I haven't blogged much lately because I guess I've lacked writing inspiration in the wait. I'm a fair-weather blogger, you could say. Kind of a sore loser, huh?

It has officially been a year now since we started the "process". Last year on November 16, we were notified that A was still in need of a forever family.

A has been so good for me. So good for us...and she doesn't even know we've been rocked. What a beautiful person God is using to slowly open our eyes. ((clarification: I think the slow part is our fault.))

I'm so thankful that God brought her into our hearts, and we can't wait to love her to pieces. Her daddy loves her so much, and I have a big feeling she is going to like him pretty good too. I love that he has chosen her to be his daughter. He is a special kind of person who loves much, and has a heart full of goodness.  For instance, he has this little saying that you may hear if you hang around him long enough... "Give grace until you're blue in the face"-- Mr. Fly. I need to ask him what happens after my face turns blue; we haven't gotten to that part yet. I am thankful for him.

Sadly, I haven't always shown thankfulness for God's hand in our lives that has taken us on some roads that at times I selfishly think really hurt, but I have always been thankful for parts of those hurts that brought A into our life. She belongs. Not for a minute am I not thankful for her. She is very much wanted.

Next up: These comfortable and blingy girly shoes made their way into our house tonight. $2. Goodwill. Need I say more?

I also had a little fettish about how they had the "Native American Ind*an" look combined with the sparkly "South Asian Ind*an" look. :) They belonged.



















The poem I tacked onto this post  is what I deem a "Good Cry Recipe", because it certainly has the potential to produce some healthy tears. It is written from the perspective of a child waiting for their forever family to find them.

"THE WAITING CHILD”
A Poem by Debbie Bodie

I saw you meet your child today
You kissed your baby joyfully
And as you walked away with her
I played pretend you’d chosen me.

I’m happy for the baby, yet
Inside I’m aching miserably
I want to plead as you go by,
“Does no-one want a child of three?”

I saw you meet your child today
In love with her before you met
And as I watched you take her out
I knew it wasn’t my turn yet.

I recognized you from last year!
I knew I’d seen your face before!
But you came for a second babe.
Does no-one want a child of four?

I saw you meet your child today
But this time there was something new
A nurse came in and took my hand
And then she gave my hand to you.

Can this be true? I’m almost six!
And there are infants here you see?
But then you kissed me and I knew
The child you chose this time was me.

13 comments:

  1. Ouch. My heart was trampled on by that poem. So often I think of adoption and adopting a baby! What a heartbreaking perspective from a child who is "aged out" but still wants that forever family. Thanks for showing your heart. We love little miss already too! We pray for her often.

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  2. Beautiful, Colista! Thanks for sharing your journey... it's encouraging to hear stories of trust from the trenches. Keeping you in my prayers!

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  3. Thanks for the tears :) That is such a great poem and I know what you mean about sometimes feeling like the road takes turns that really, really hurt. No fun at all. But, I do think God allows those so that our love for our little ones is greater than it would have been and in your hubby's expression- give grace until you're blue in the face- It's like God is giving us steroids of grace!

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  4. Oh, the wait is soooo hard. Praying for you.

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  5. {{hugs}} as you wait & as you continue to trust Jesus to bring your family together physically just as HE has already done in bringing your hearts together as a family!

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  6. I am constantly blessed by hearing of your journey :) God is working in more than three lives! I used to read all kinds of blogs, and now I just read the ones that I really, really, enjoy. Yours always seems to make the list :) Thank you for your transparency as you share your journey. Life was meant to be shared. The road is much easier walked hand in hand; we gift each other by placing a hand on our companion's arm, making them stop to enjoy the view. Thanks :)

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    1. Thanks for the encouragement! Thankful for friends like you...

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  7. You speak truth. A good recipe for tears. Love you!

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  8. That's funny....I totally thought I posted a comment on this. Colista, I am getting old....I think I posted a comment in my head....but never actually in "real life." Anyway...you are such an inspiration to me. I know you may not "feel" it....but really, you are doing so well in this journey. I am so glad we know one another....you are a HUGE encouragement to me.

    Love you tons!!!!

    Mer :)

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  9. Mer, me too! I thought I commented on this post already . . . yikes. :o) Colista, it is so hard to feel the pain of waiting, and I love how you're considering the wait from the opposite end -- from the older child's perspective. Thanks for sharing this.
    Nancy

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  10. Colista, that poem had me bawling... I can imagine the feeling. I just got back home with our 3 year old daughter and the faces of the "older children" especially one boy just few months older than my son left me so distressed. He did not want to come out to say good bye to us as we left the orphanage. Oh the sadness... he has been waiting for so long too... With your permission I'd like to copy this poem on my blog as well...

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    1. Thank you for your testimony...
      Makes me sooo sad. :(:( Wow. :(
      Can you give me your e-mail address? I am curious as to what city you adopted your daughter from.

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    2. Oh, and yes, I didn't even write the poem, so you are free to use it too! I just made sure to give credit to the author---hope that is okay?

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